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Find the best financial services for you at: SMARTFINANCESOLUTIONS.NET - Why is it so hard???????? - i dont have time to write all the details. but i have written on here before ..and asked a couple questions. I am tired. I love this man. but he has a mistress and I have done everything I know to do and exhausted ways to help him. and it has put me into a chapter 13 bankruptcy. His mistress is not a woman it is a drug. I hate her.....i call it a her. He happens to love it more than he loves me. Even before eating, or paying bills and taking care of even his self. He knows I can pay the bills and feels that is ok somewhere in his head. I do love him but I am having a hard time showing him some tough love. I am trying to be as tough as I can. I am a person who always in most all situations will take almost all i can stand. I have prayed. I am having a hard time being tough. I told him I love him. but the ball is in his court he need to take her out of our lives. he cannot love himself or me till he figures out that what he wants out of his life. there are alot more details but i have to head back to work .... I just feel like the only way I can be tough is to get angry and till i have had my fill of how he is treating me i keep letting him think its ok .....i need advice on how to be tough ... i guess. -