Fall in Love Again

In romantic relationships, falling in love is the concept of moving from a feeling of neutrality towards a person to one of love.
The use of the term "fall" implies that the process is in some way uncontrollable and risky - as in the phrases "to fall ill" or "to fall into a trap" - and that it leaves the lover in a state of vulnerability.[citation needed]
It may also reflect the importance of the lower brain centers in the process,[1] which can lead the rational, accounting brain to conclude (in John Cleese's words) that "this falling in love routine is very bizarre....It borders on the occult"
"Factors known to contribute strongly to falling in love include proximity, similarity, reciprocity, and physical attractiveness",[3] while at the same time, the process involves a re-activation of old childhood patterns of attachment.[4] Deep-set psychological parallels between two people may also underpin their pairing-bonding,[5] which can thus border on mere narcissistic identification".[6]
Jungians view the process of falling in love as one of projecting the anima or animus onto the other person, with all the potential for misunderstanding that can involve
Two chemical reactions associated with falling in love are increases in oxytocin and vasopressin;[8] and Elisabeth Young-Bruehl has suggested that "when we fall in love we are falling into a stream of naturally occurring amphetamines running through the emotional centres of our very own brains".[9] With regard to sociobiology, it is stressed that mate selection cannot be left to the head alone[10] and must require complex neurochemical support.[11]
Critics of such Neo-Darwinism point out that over-simplistic physical arguments obscure the way sexual passion often leads not to secure attachment but to attachments thwarted, as well as the sheer frightening difficulties of all falling in love.[12]
Biologist Jeremy Griffith suggests that people fall in love in order to abandon themselves to the dream of an ideal state (being one free of the human condition)
Stendhal charted the timing of falling in love in terms of what he called crystallization - a first period of crystallization (of some six weeks)[13] which often involves obsessive brooding and the idealisation of the other via a coating of desire;[14] a period of doubt; and then a final crystallization of love.[15]
Empirical studies suggest that men fall in love earlier than women and women are quicker to fall out of love than men.
While some consider falling in love to be the nearest approach to a spiritual experience possible for the non-religious,[17] others say its loss of ego boundaries is merely a temporary phenomenon which has little to do with, or may even block, spiritual development.
Here’s How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You

When researchers asked people to tell the stories of how they fell in love, what were the eleven most common factors?

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Variables That Influence Falling in Love

1. Similarity in attitudes, background, personality traits

2. Geographic proximity

3. Desirable characteristics of personality and appearance

4. Reciprocal affection, the fact that the other likes us

5. Satisfying needs

6. Physical and emotional arousal

7. Social influences, norms, and the approval of people in our circle

8. Specific cues in the beloved’s voice, eyes, posture, way of moving

9. Readiness for a romantic relationship

10. Opportunities to be alone together

11. Mystery, in the situation or the person
Let’s check out the specifics of how to make someone fall in love with you:

Proximity

Being nearby helps a lot. Yeah, unromantic and obvious but if you’re looking for love, definitely ask yourself where you’re spending your time.

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In another study, conducted in Columbus, Ohio, in the 1950s, 431 couples who applied for marriage licenses were interviewed. It turned out that 54% of the couples were separated by a distance of 16 blocks or fewer when they first went out together, and 37% were separated by a distance of 5 blocks or fewer. The number of marriages decreased as the distance increased between the couples’ places of residence.

Who becomes friends in the dorms at college? People who are similar? No.People who are nearby.

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Two factors appeared to exercise the greatest influence on personal relationships: the location of the apartments and the distances between them. The most important factor in determining who would be emotionally close to whom was the distance between their apartments.

What underlies this? Obviously, you have to meet, but there’s something else going on: repeated exposure.

As marketers know very well (and anyone looking for love should learn about marketing), repeated exposure makes us like almost anything.

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Repeated exposure, it turns out